What does it mean to feel passionate? What can you get involved in? Different hobbies of people of different ages

It seems that best activity after work is to come home and do nothing. But this is what those who are used to ignoring the needs of their soul think. Don't know what to do on a weekend evening? Ask yourself what made you happy as a child? Why not repeat it right now or, conversely, learn something new? You never know what your soul will respond to. After all, a hobby is the energy that lights a fire in our eyes.

What is a hobby?

A hobby is an activity for the soul that makes our lives full, improves our mood, energizes us and gives us pleasure. IN adolescence it teaches accuracy, develops curiosity,... An adult's hobbies help him return to a happy childhood and awaken in himself that delight that makes his eyes light up and makes him want to jump out of bed early in the morning. The real lucky ones are the people who managed to turn their hobby into a profession.

The hobbies of our ancestors were not limited to embroidery or wood carving. Were exotic hobbies like visiting morgues or anatomical theaters. But there were also those who became the work of a lifetime. For example, the curiosity of Vladimir Dahl gave us the main explanatory dictionary. Although from childhood he was prepared for military service, and literature was only a hobby for him.

Hobbies are a significant component of a person’s life. It helps us explore the world, expand our horizons and earn money. It makes us happier. The first goal of the hobby is help in and satisfy internal needs. But in the 21st century, doing something “just because” is becoming unfashionable. The idea of how to make money from a hobby comes to the fore.

Although the share of online commerce increases annually by 10-20%, traditional stores with goods for handicrafts and creativity do not lose their position. Perhaps buyers come there to communicate, “to show themselves and see others.” And in handicraft stores you can touch fabrics, beads, and paper. There are a lot of goods for creativity. Looking at them “in reality” is more pleasant than on a computer screen.

What are your interests and hobbies?

It is difficult to list what hobbies there are. They can be divided into two main types:

Amateur- this is when you do what you love just for fun.
Professional- these are hobbies for which money is paid.

According to the resources involved, you can divide activities for the soul:

Intelligent: foreign languages, chess, quests, board games.
Emotional: drawing, singing, raising animals.
Physical: sports, dancing, travel.

How does a hobby help us work and live?

Psychologists have noticed that a person chooses a hobby according to his personality. prefer sports or dancing, find an outlet in collecting or learning. But there are common benefits that passionate people receive:

It adds confidence. A favorite activity is a resource that helps you recover after a hectic day or, conversely, get an emotional boost for a difficult challenge.
It helps you cope with things you don't like. A bonus in the form of a favorite activity will help you quickly deal with obligatory tasks that you don’t really want to do.
It adds stability to life. Isn’t it wonderful to find something constant in the rhythm of today’s life that captivates you, regardless of changes at work?
This is your personal space. This is your own island, which imbues you with positive energy if there is nowhere else to get it from.
This speaks of the integrity of a person. The ability to concentrate on one activity, the desire to search for information, and find like-minded people.
It enhances your image developed, human.

The benefits of a hobby are difficult to overestimate. It’s not for nothing that applicants’ resumes include an item about hobbies. You shouldn’t ignore it, because your hobby will tell the employer a lot:

Football or volleyball is about the ability to work in a team.
The category in a sport is about constant.
Conducted quests or parties indicate organizational skills.
Chess is about strategic thinking.
Drawing or photography - o.
The master classes held are about public speaking.

But when filling out your resume, you shouldn’t come up with non-existent hobbies just because your manager is into it. It’s better to think about how to talk about your hobby so that it helps you get the coveted position.

It's not easy. Because the symptoms of the “disease” are similar to both. Both love and infatuation arise suddenly.

It also takes your breath away when you see the person you love or are infatuated with; Apart from him, no one else exists, and in order to be close to him, you are ready to give half your kingdom and a horse in addition. Or even the whole kingdom. And this is where you can see the difference. It will consist in WHAT you will do when this person is next to you. At your disposal, so to speak.

If you are happy just because your dear person is next to you, this is a sign of love. If you can look at the face of a sleeping woman or her fingers for hours, and talking with her will seem like unspeakable bliss to you, this is a sign of love. If you immediately want sensual pleasures, and even more to receive them than to give them, this is a sign of passion and nothing more.

If your woman seems beautiful to you in everything, not just in appearance, and a few early wrinkles only complement her beauty, but do not spoil her in any way, this is a sign of love. Seeing beauty in a woman or man, no matter what they look like or what they wear, is a sign of love. If you “forgive” a woman for her tired appearance, the lack of carefully selected makeup, or the morning hoarseness in her voice, this is a sign of love. If you force yourself not to notice all this, so as not to spoil the overall impression, this is just a simple hobby. For passion seeks perfection. And love finds him, forgiving mistakes.

A great way to test feelings is distance.

If the woman (man) dear to you is not around for a long time, and the feeling gradually disappears, it was a simple hobby.

If the feeling intensifies, and you feel that you have lost a part of yourself, without which you feel bad, and no one can fill this part - this is love.

And a person in love operates with the concept of “we”. WE were at the theater. We were walking in the park. WE indulged in love. If a man or woman says: I went to the cinema with her, I went with him to his friends - this is just passion.

A man feels bad when his woman is not with him. It doesn't matter if he's in love with her or infatuated with her. He is waiting for her to appear or at least to call. And when it rings, he rushes to the phone and, terribly worried, asks the question:

When will we see each other?

This means he is passionate.

If he rushes to the phone and, terribly worried, asks:

Where are you? Are you all right?

This means that a man loves.

True love is selfless. And it is aimed at making the person you love feel good. There is absolutely no place for selfishness in love. What is divorce for married couples? This is when I feel bad with her. Or HER with me. That is, divorce is based on the manifestation of selfishness in its purest form.

As you know, most often divorces occur during the first 7 years of marriage. This means that the marriage was built not on love, but on passion. And it passed. Because it passes much faster than love. But true love never seems to go away...

The sexual desire to possess a woman (man) is present in both infatuation and love. However, in love this desire is among others. And in hobby - in the first row.

The infatuation usually goes away immediately after bed. Or not immediately, but, say, for the second (third) time. Every second man will confirm this to you. Not counting every first one.

The passion disappears, disappears without a trace. Both the man and the woman either break up, or become friends or just acquaintances. Yes, such that if they walk towards each other along the same street, then one of them will definitely cross to the other side. So as not to meet.

In a word, passion is an episode of life. And love is life. And she, like life itself, does not disappear without a trace. And, of course, it does not disappear after bed. Neither the first nor the third. On the contrary, making love becomes necessary for those who love; it makes you closer, and the desire to give affection and joy to someone dear to you becomes a necessity. Which is part of the great and rare happiness called love.

A person is not always able to see the difference between passion and true love, due to the “drunken state of soul and mind”

In his article in the magazine " Family life" Paul Popenoe describes what most people think of romantic love: "Love is an incomprehensible obsession that comes out of nowhere and immediately takes over you completely, like measles. You recognize it intuitively. If it's a real feeling, you won't have to guess for long. You will see her, no doubt. Love is so important that you have to give up everything for it. A man can be forgiven for leaving his wife for love, a woman can be forgiven for leaving her house and children, and a king can be forgiven for leaving his throne. It comes completely unexpectedly and you can't do anything. It is not subject to human control." But this is NOT true love! Real love is not like that.

Infatuation really comes unexpectedly, and we are unable to resist it. But true love is devoted and selfless love. This is what she is holding on to. And knowing the difference between infatuation and love will prevent you from making a huge mistake.

How can you tell the difference? During the Gold Rush, many prospectors thought they had "struck a vein." But later, to their great disappointment, they found out that their find was not real gold, but the worthless mineral pyrite. Pyrite is very similar in appearance to gold, but has no value. It is also called "fool's gold".

In his book, “Sex, Love or Infatuation—How Can You Tell It?,” Dr. Ray Short gives some key tips to help a person examine what they are feeling and determine whether it is true love gold or “fool’s gold”—mere infatuation.

We will look at 12 of these keys. All keys should be taken into account, but not selectively each of them.

Key #1. What attracts you most?

Enthusiasm: When you're infatuated, you're more likely to be more interested in the other person's physical attributes. A beautiful face and a good figure are, of course, very attractive qualities, but appearances can be deceiving. It is like the wrapping paper in which a gift is wrapped. It cannot be used to judge what exactly is inside. Moreover, physical beauty is not eternal. Dr. Short says: "Of the dozen school meetings I attended as a young man, I remember only one. 'Young people!' - the speaker said solemnly. “Before you marry a girl because of her pretty face and attractive curves, think about what she will look like at 30.” And that stopped me?”

Real love: If your love is genuine, you will be interested in the personality of your chosen one as a whole. Surely, physical attraction will also be present in your feelings, but only along with many other qualities that are attractive to you.

Key number 2. How many different qualities attract you to this person?

Enthusiasm: Usually the number of such qualities is small, but they can have a very strong impact on you. A guy can go crazy with his girlfriend's smile or sexy walk.

Real love: When you truly love, you like all or most of the qualities in the other person. Each of us has many characteristic features, your judgments and attitudes. How many features do you notice in someone else, and how many of them do you find attractive? This is important because once the initial excitement of marriage wears off, you will need many common interests to keep the marriage going and make it successful.

Key number 3. How did it start?

Enthusiasm: Infatuation arises quickly. There is no such thing as true love at first sight, but there can be infatuation at first sight. As one love song says, “the eyes of the lovers met in the crowd, lightning flashed, and they immediately realized that they were made for each other.” In reality, they could only understand what they had done to each other. good first impression.

Real love: True love always comes slowly. Otherwise it can not be. You have to get to know a person before you can really love them, and that takes time, a lot of time, to really get to know someone. Long-term courtship is much better than short-term courtship. A year is better than six months, two years is better than one, three years is better than two, and four is better than three. Three years? Four? Yes, the statistics on this subject are absolutely clear. But most young couples do not want to wait even a year. They are in a hurry to get married and from their own experience they are convinced of the validity of the old saying: “If you rush, you will make people laugh.” If you get married too hastily, you will have plenty of time later to regret it.

Key number 4. How constant is your interest?

Enthusiasm: When you're passionate, your interest flares up and then goes out. One reason for this is that infatuation occurs too quickly and therefore the roots are not deep. And in general, your relationship is superficial.

Real love: When you truly love, your feelings will be warm and tender rather than fluctuating from ardent passion to cold indifference, they will be more constant. True love grows slowly, but its roots run deep.

Key number 5. How does the feeling affect you?

Enthusiasm: Infatuation has a disorganizing effect on your personality. Makes you less responsible and efficient. Romantic feelings completely take over you, and you walk around, immersed in dreams. The girl who says, "I know he has flaws, but nothing matters except our love" is infatuated... TEMPORARILY! Once married, she will eventually discover that many other things still matter.

Real love: If your love is genuine, your best qualities and you strive to become even better. A guy who really loves says about his girlfriend: “I love her not only because she is so beautiful, but also because she inspires me to show my best qualities.”

Key No. 6. How do you treat others?

Enthusiasm: When you are passionate, for you the whole “universe” revolves around one person. The rest of your relationships seem completely unimportant to you. You are even ready to reject family and friends. Your feeling becomes the most important thing in your life. It is the only thing that matters to you from now on. You think that for the sake of this amazing “love” that has entered your life, you can be forgiven for doing any actions. As we've said before, most hobbies don't last, but the mistakes you make while under the influence often have lifelong consequences.

Real love: When you truly love, your beloved person is the most important person in the world for you, but relationships with family and friends do not lose their importance.

Key No. 7. How do others view your relationship?

Enthusiasm: What others think of your “lover” is a very important test. When you're in love, it's likely that your parents and many of your friends won't approve of the relationship. One of the dangerous aspects of infatuation is that you tend to idealize the other person. You don't see flaws because you are "blinded by love." Your friends try to point out some red flags, but you ignore them. Your parents lovingly warn you, trying to prevent you from making a big mistake, but you don't listen. Young people sometimes say: “So what? We’re marrying each other, not our family and friends.” You can also adhere to this position, but it is unforgivable stupidity to neglect the advice of people who love you. Over the years of your life, both you and your loved one have developed a certain circle of friends. We all strive to be like those we choose as friends; they become like us. Therefore, your friends are, in a sense, your “mirror”. If you're passionate about someone, your friends often don't share the same feelings. If they see red flags, you should pay attention and listen to their opinion.

Real love: When you truly love, there is a greater chance that your parents and most of your friends will approve of your choice. For God to bless your marriage, the consent and approval of your parents is very important.

Key No. 8. How do breakups affect?

Enthusiasm: One of the best tests for feeling is the test of distance. If you are just passionate, then time and distance will kill your feeling. This also explains the breakups of those couples whose main interest was physical attractiveness. Over time, another living person nearby will replace the loved one who remains only in the photograph.

Real love: When you really love, the absence of your loved one only exacerbates your feeling. True love will definitely stand the test of distance and time. It is based not only on the physical attractiveness of a person, it accepts him entirely as a person. Time spent together helps you grow together. Therefore, when separated, you seem to lose your part. Another person, even a very attractive one, cannot fill the emptiness in your heart. Being at a distance, of course, you may experience anxiety and sadness. You will be worried about the thought: “What if he (or she) meets someone else?” And this can happen. But if your loved one is capable of finding happiness with someone else, then it is better to find out about this before, rather than after, marriage. Therefore, if you are facing separation, accept it and do not worry. If your feeling is only infatuation, and it will not withstand such a test, it is better to find out before it is too late.

Key number 9. How do disagreements affect feelings?

Enthusiasm: When you are passionate, you often quarrel. You can make peace, but over time, quarrels become more frequent and serious. You become like two porcupines in the cold. When they are apart, they shake from the cold, but as soon as they press against each other, they prick each other with their needles. "Anton and Alina dated for more than two years. During this time they quarreled and made up at least once a month. Discord arose over any trifle or imaginary offense. Both acted out terrible jealousy. And then Maria, Alina's best friend, tried to open up to them eyes. Once Alina shared with her the details of the last quarrel and threatened: “Just let him try to get me back! I won’t even talk to him!” “I think you will, Alina,” Maria addressed her gently, “but I hope that you will firmly tell him: “Goodbye, Anton, it’s all over.” And then she explained her position to her surprised friend: “You both bring out the worst in each other. You quarrel because you have nothing else to talk about. Strife, tears and romantic “reconciliations” only relieve you of boredom.

Real love: When you are truly in love, you may have disagreements, but true love survives them and quarrels become less frequent and serious. Every couple must learn how to resolve conflicts. It is much better to discuss differences openly and honestly than to let them fester in the back of your mind.

Key number 10. How do you view your relationships?

Enthusiasm: When you are infatuated, you tend to think of yourself and your loved one as two people, and accordingly use pronouns in your thoughts and speech: “I”, “me”, “mine”, “he”, “his” , or "she", "her". You think of you as two separate individuals.

Real love: When you really love, you usually use the words: “we”, “our”, “us”. You think of you as one. This key may not seem so important when you are just dating, but it is of great importance in marriage. When a marriage is based on passion, husband and wife may find more pleasure in pursuing different interests than in joint activities. The husband may yearn and want to “go out with friends” more than spending time at home with his family. Or the wife will become more interested in her social connections than in her household responsibilities.
In families where true love exists, husband and wife enjoy doing things together. A common response here is: "I don't want to go if you can't go too."

Key No. 11. Are you selfish or selfless?

Enthusiasm: When you are infatuated, your interest in the other person is mainly selfish. A guy can date a beautiful and noticeable girl only because it flatters his pride and raises his prestige. She may be capricious and spoiled, but since she is the "queen" of the school, he becomes the "king" next to her. In the same way, a girl can keep a guy “on a leash” not because she is really interested in him, but because his devotion raises her value in the eyes of others.

Real love: When you really love, you like a person for what he is, and not because he can help you assert yourself.

Key No. 12. What is the basis of your feelings?

Enthusiasm: Is your goal to find a person who will completely devote his life to making you happy? Do you take care of yourself first? If yes, then you are just infatuated. Your general attitude is selfish - you care most about what you can get from this relationship.

Real love: Love is selfless and devoted. You strive to do whatever it takes to bring joy to others. You are primarily interested in what you can give, not what you can receive.

Evaluate your feeling. Take a sheet of paper and carefully study the keys, starting with the first one. Give an assessment of your feelings for each of them. If you want, the keys can show not only whether your love is real, but also a certain degree of your feeling. In most cases, the clues show a mixture of infatuation and true love. Therefore, rate each key on a ten-point scale. Zero will mean infatuation, and 10 will mean love. For example, when looking at clue #1, you might decide, “To be completely honest, I was mainly interested in physical attractiveness, so I'll give myself two points.” If, when examining key No. 7, you see that approximately half of your friends approve of your choice, and half do not, then give yourself five points. When you rate yourself on all twelve keys, add up your points. An overall score of 80 or higher shows that your senses are fairly reliable. For your part, you can believe that your love can become the basis for a successful marriage. But that's only on your part. The person you love must also pass this test and score a high score. Love must be mutual. No matter how much you love this person, one-sided love will not help. He should experience the same feelings in return. If you score between 50 and 80 points, you will need more time to see how your relationship develops. If the points scored are less than 50, you are just carried away.

So try to save your heart. First of all, do not complicate your relationship with sexual intimacy and do not rush into marriage.
Also note the following: A high score on this test does not necessarily mean that you are ready for marriage. First of all, you may still be too young for marriage, even if you have scored a lot of points. Secondly, even if you are the right age, you may simply not know each other well yet. As we have already said, you you need to know each other well for at least two years before thinking about marriage.

Good luck and love to you! True Love!

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